Category: Mindfulness

  • Hedonistic Adaptation

    Hedonistic adaptation (also called the hedonic treadmill) is a concept in Psychology that describes how people tend to return to a relatively stable level of happiness despite major positive or negative changes in their lives.

    What it means in simple terms

    When something good or bad happens—like getting a promotion, buying a new phone, or going through a breakup—you feel a strong emotional reaction at first.

    But over time, that feeling fades, and your overall happiness drifts back toward your usual baseline.

    Examples

    • Positive change: You buy a new car. At first, you feel excited and proud—but after a few weeks or months (6), it just feels normal.
    • Negative change: You fail an exam. Initially, you feel upset, but over time, the intensity of that feeling decreases and you recover emotionally.

    Why it happens

    Humans are very good at adapting.

    Our brains adjust to new circumstances so we can keep functioning without being overwhelmed—whether the change is good or bad.

    Why it matters

    Hedonistic adaptation helps explain why:

    • Material things often don’t bring long-term happiness
    • People keep seeking new goals or experiences
    • Lasting happiness often comes more from habits, relationships, and mindset than from one-time events

    How to increase overall life satisfaction?

    Slow down adaptation to good things

    Most people lose appreciation because they stop noticing what they already have.

    • Regularly reflect on things that are going well.
    • Occasionally, compare your current situation to where you were 5 or 10 years ago.
    • Vary positive experiences instead of repeating the exact same ones.
    • Celebrate milestones, even small ones.
    • Do gratitude micro-rituals daily

    Invest in experiences and relationships

    Experiences and relationships tend to produce longer-lasting satisfaction than possessions.

    Examples:

    • Family trips
    • Learning a sport
    • Building a community
    • Meaningful conversations
    • Shared projects with friends

    Keep growing

    Humans adapt to achievements surprisingly quickly.

    Rather than chasing a single big goal:

    • Create a series of meaningful challenges.
    • Always have something you’re learning.
    • Develop skills that make you feel capable and useful.

    This creates ongoing engagement rather than short bursts of excitement.

    Focus on meaning, not just pleasure

    Pleasure is enjoyable but fades quickly.

    Meaning tends to endure longer:

    • Raising children
    • Helping clients succeed
    • Teaching others
    • Building something that lasts
    • Contributing to a community

    Many successful people discover that purpose creates a more stable form of satisfaction than pleasure alone.

    Take care of the physical foundation

    Happiness is heavily influenced by:

    • Sleep
    • Exercise
    • Time outdoors
    • Social connection
    • Stress management

    These may seem basic, but they often have a larger impact than major purchases or career milestones.

    Accept sadness as part of a good life

    A surprising finding from psychology is that emotionally healthy people are not happy all the time.

    They:

    • Experience sadness when appropriate.
    • Grieve losses.
    • Feel disappointment.
    • Recover and move forward.

    The goal isn’t permanent happiness.

    It’s a life where positive emotions are common, negative emotions are manageable, and both serve a purpose.

    A useful model is:

    • Happiness = enjoy the present.
    • Satisfaction = progress toward goals.
    • Meaning = serving something larger than yourself.

    When all three are present, people tend to report the highest overall well-being, even though they still experience sadness from time to time.

    For many people, the biggest mistake is pursuing happiness alone while neglecting satisfaction and meaning.

  • Dealing With Stress At Work That Could Cost You Opportunities

    You get an unexpected call from the client who is complaining about the missed deadline caused by your team. He is stressed out and acting rather unprofessionally.

    You feel the tension.

    When stress is tied to work, sales, or reputation, it feels sharper because your identity and survival seem to be at stake.

    The mind clings: “If I lose this, I lose my future clients. I lose myself…” or is it just an illusion?

    What is the root of the stress? Fear?

    Notice: the stress is not only about the project, but about how others see you and whether you will “win” or “lose.” See that clearly.

    When seen, fear loosens its power.

    Tactics to deal with the stress at work

    First-Principles Listening

    When my kids or someone at work is upset, I force myself to listen first. Not to argue — just to hear.

    Once they feel heard, solutions come more easily.

    Delay Decisions

    If you’re triggered, don’t respond instantly (email, fight, or argument).

    Say: “Let me think about this for a minute.” Even 5–10 minutes can prevent big mistakes.

    Compassion for self and others

    Say inwardly: “I am doing my best. That is enough.”

    Then shift focus outward: “How can I genuinely help this person in front of me?” Service replaces self-concern.

    Notes

    Sudden stress is a chance to pause, zoom out, and act like an engineer, not a reactor. Treat it like rocket turbulence — don’t fight the air, adjust trajectory.

  • Be Present? Here’s What It Really Means and Why It Matters

    Be present” is advice we hear everywhere.

    But what does it actually mean?

    Can being present help you be happier?

    I watched an interview with Ondrej Novotny, the co-founder of Oktagon MMA organization, on Vojta Ziska’s podcast.

    The interviewer’s question was about what makes such a successful founder happy.

    Ondrej mentioned a Buddhist principle he likes — “Happiness is irrelevant, happiness is to be here and now…

    So, I researched a bit about what this actually means in the context of Buddhism and added a take from my favourite authors, such as Rick Rubin and Huberman.

    Here are my notes and ideas that I started practicing, and they seem relevant.

    In Buddhism, presence isn’t just about enjoying the moment — it’s about meeting reality as it is.

    Buddhism teaches that suffering comes from resisting reality. Wanting things to be different, clinging to pleasure, avoiding discomfort.

    Presence means seeing things without filters, expectations, or judgment.

    Being present is noticing what’s happening right now without clinging or resisting.

    It’s not drifting into yesterday’s regrets or tomorrow’s worries, but resting in this unfolding moment.

    Pleasant things come and go. Unpleasant things come and go.

    So what exactly to notice?

    Everyday Sensory Presence

    Walking – feel your feet touch the ground, notice the rhythm of your steps. Showering – the warmth of the water, the scent of soap, the sound of droplets. Driving – the grip of the wheel, the flow of the road, the hum of the engine. Typing – the click of keys, the movement of your fingers. Holding your child’s hand – the warmth, the pressure, the aliveness of the moment.

    Emotional Presence

    When joy arises, truly feel it fully, rather than rushing past it.

    When irritation arises, notice “tightness” in the chest or heat in the face before reacting.

    Relational Presence

    In conversation, listen without preparing your reply, notice tone, pauses, and eye contact.

    With family instead of half-listening while on your phone, give full attention.

    Micro-Presence Pauses

    Before opening an email, one conscious breath.

    At a red light, notice posture and shoulders.

    Before bed, feel the body settling into rest.

    What happens when we start to focus on noticing and being there in the moment?

    Mind quiets down. When we stop holding on or pushing away, the mind naturally settles. You notice how much of your mental energy is usually eaten by replaying the past or predicting the future. By anchoring in the moment (breath, body, surroundings), that constant noise begins to settle.

    Clarity grows. You see thoughts, feelings, and impulses as events in the mind rather than as absolute truths. Anger, stress, craving — you can watch them arise and fade, instead of being dragged around by them.

    Less reactivity, more choice. Instead of snapping, escaping, or overthinking, you start to respond instead of react. That means more freedom in how you handle people, stress, or conflict.

    Joy in small things. Ordinary experiences (a sip of tea, a walk, your child’s laugh) become vivid. Presence lets you see details you usually rush past.

    Acceptance and compassion. By meeting reality as it is, you resist less. You soften toward yourself (instead of constantly criticizing) and toward others (seeing their struggles too).

    Shift in identity. Over time, you realize: “I am not my thoughts or emotions, I am the space noticing them.” This loosens ego and makes room for a more profound sense of peace.

    How to be present in stressful situations?

    In stress, presence becomes your anchor.

    The storm may rage, but you don’t have to be swept away.

    Here is my cheat sheet for quick stress relief.

    What if the stress is caused by a situation at work where my reputation or future opportunities may be affected? Read my notes here.

    Side Notes

    ➔ Presence reveals life’s truths: everything is changing, nothing is fixed as “me” or “mine,” and chasing after moments only creates stress.

    By seeing reality directly, we experience freedom and peace.

    ➔ Typically, we react to thoughts and emotions automatically. Presence creates a small but powerful gap — enough space to choose wisely instead of reacting blindly.

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